One’s preference to music is germane to a person’s personality, background, and depth. This statement, alone, is not backed by science or by a credible expert in music theory. It’s an opinion loosely based on my own observations of other people and of my own introspective thoughts.
I’ve had innumerable, but brief, conversations with people about random topics. Topics I was mildly interested in but not fully enthralled with. Peppered in those polite talks were mentions about songs and bands that are “loved above all”. Funny thing to note that the active participants in those conversations strived to fit in.
If you read “Notes From The Underground” by Fyoder Dostoevsky than you will detect humor from my social observations of people trying “too hard” to be “loved by all.”
The personality of someone who wants to be loved by all loves to listen to [all] music that has catchy riffs, constant radio AirPlay, created by an artist that is loved by a desired demographic/segment.
This post also includes pseudo hipsters who love The Shins, hates Nickleback, and who love Quasi-hip bands like The Black Keys.
One’s publicly shared music selection, can make or break them into fitting into a desired group.
One’s personality, background, and depth can be detected instantly as soon as it’s revealed which artist they covet the most.
A stark observation about someone, anyone, is instantly revealed in a conversation about “loving popular bands” with strangers, acquaintances, friends and even family.
Musical interest can be used as a social tool, unfortunately. But if you put your feelers on, box in your pride, and go past surface music conversation, you can connect with an actual person. Not a robot.
I hate to break it to you but we’re all guilty of judging each other harshly on music preferences. We’re all judging each other on personality, background and depth. Music links to persona.
The most important part of a conversation is listening, incase you didn’t know. Connect with someone by asking for a list of their top 10 favorite songs. Use this list to modify a new Spotify playlist and listen to each song three times. Listen for the words. Pay attention to the mood.
Whomever shared these songs, unknowingly, shared their private conversations, insecurities, dreams, and secrets with you.
Sharing songs, on the fly, in group conversation, is starkly different than sharing a favorite music list with one person.
Much like a fingerprint, our innate song preferences, is uniquely ours. But not always shared in mass conversation due to contrived fears of fitting in.
Our public face masks a lot of beautiful Spotify playlists.